The flight attendant was serving drinks, and I was sitting in the first seat of the coach section of the plane. She gave me my tomato juice, and I said thank you. When she served the person next to me and the person next to her, they both said thank you. On the other side of the aisle, the next passenger said thank you after being served. The flight attendant announced, "What a polite crowd! I love it!"
I asked her whether passengers are usually polite. She responded, "I can serve snacks to 100 people and not get a thank you until the 101st."
Although it was disappointing to learn of the sorry state of people’s manners, it was good to know something else–that it mattered. The flight attendant noticed and she cared.
In any kind of communication, I like to think that manners and kindness matter. In business writing, I believe it is right to greet readers by name, ask rather than order, and express thanks. Especially if yours is the 101st message of the day, you may be able to lift someone’s spirits. I know we brightened our flight attendant’s trip, each with a simple two-word phrase.
In any communication, we have the power to delight or disappoint. It’s all in our language and attitude.
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